A Hand-book Of Etiquette For LadiesCXII.
The members of an invited family should not be seen conversing often together at a party.
MUSIC.
CXIII.
Never exhibit any particular anxiety to sing or to play. You may have a fine voice, have a brilliant instrumental execution; but your friends may by possibility neither admire nor appreciate either.
CXIV.
If you intend to sing, do not affect to refuse when asked, but at once accede. If you are a good singer, your prompt compliance will add to the pleasure of your friends, and to their regard; if you are not the desire to amuse will have been evinced, and will be appreciated.
CXV.
Do not sing songs descriptive of masculine pa.s.sion or sentiment; there is an abundance of superior songs for both s.e.xes.
CXVI.
If you are singing second, do not drag on, nor as it were tread upon the heels of your _prima_; if you do not regard your friend's feelings, have mercy on your own reputation, for nine out of ten in every party will think you in the wrong, and those who know that you are singing in correct time, will believe you ill-natured or not sufficiently mistress of the song to wait upon your friend.
CXVII.
If playing an accompaniment to a singer, do not forget that your instrument is intended to aid, not to interrupt: that it is to be subordinate to the song.
CXVIII.
If nature has not given you a voice, do not attempt to sing, unless you have sufficient taste, knowledge, and judgment, to cover its defects by an accompaniment.
CXIX.
Never sing more than one or two songs consecutively.
CXX.
When at concerts or private parties where music is being performed, never converse, no matter how anxious you may be to do so, or how many persons you may see doing so; and refrain from beating time, humming the airs, applauding, or making ridiculous gestures of admiration.
THE DINNER-TABLE.
CXXI.
Invitations to dinner must of course be answered to the lady. Cards of invitation to a dinner party are usually issued from three days to a fortnight previous to the entertainment; they should specify the hour of meeting. The proper number for such a party is somewhat in dispute: the happy medium may be considered ten.
CXXII.
As persons are necessarily introduced at a dinner party, only such persons as are known to each other, or who mutually desire to be acquainted should be invited, except under the circ.u.mstances alluded to in No. I.
CXXIII.
Be punctual to the hour appointed.
CXXIV.
When an invitation is accepted, let nothing but imperative necessity compel you to break the engagement, or at the last moment to send an excuse.
CXXV.
When your guests enter, present them to the others, and if any delay occur, let the conversation be light and on commonplace topics.
CXXVI.
It is usual for the host or hostess to point out to the gentlemen the ladies they are to conduct to the dining-room, according to some real or imaginary standard (age or distinction). If persons of distinction are present, it is desirable that this should be done--of course giving them precedence.
CXXVII.
The hostess follows her guests to the dining-room, the host having led the way with the lady of most consideration; the gentleman of the greatest distinction accompanies the hostess to the dining-room.
CXXVIII.
The hostess takes the head of the table: the seat of honor for a gentleman is at her right hand; for a lady, it is to the right of the host.
CXXIX.
Ladies do not wear gloves during dinner.